A Year of Loss, A Life Without Direction
And I can't believe it's been almost a year since we first connected with Career Evolved. So tell me, where were you at when you came to Career Evolved? And what was your situation?
Well girl, I went through a year of loss. I went through a lot of loss in 2024. Between my mom and losing my mom, I gained my master's. My fiance lost his grandmother. I gained a fiance. We got engaged and I lost my job. And so I was in this world of grief, this world of pain, and this world of I don't know what the heck I want.
I remember watching the video on your website about the jack of all trades. And I was like, yep, there I am. I can fit into anything you put me in and I can get the job done and get it done well. But what the heck do I want in the world?
...I was constantly juggling these two games of long-term career aspiration and short-term, I need to pay the bills. I need to make money. I need to gain cash flow.
“I remember watching the video on your website about the jack of all trades. And I was like, yep, there I am. I can fit into anything you put me in and I can get the job done and get it done well. But what the heck do I want in the world?”
Naming the Caregiver Pattern
So we talked a lot about energy levels, you and I, in our calls and our sessions. You're like, you're stuck at caregiver is all about the other person winning. How do I help you win? You're stuck at caregiver. And it makes sense. I was a caregiver to my mother for a while. And then I was a caregiver, frankly, to my previous companies. It was a lot about making sure they succeed and totally self-abandoning and forgetting about myself.
And so there's this new era of shifting out of caregiver and into being a cup overflowing.
“You're stuck at caregiver is all about the other person winning... I was a caregiver, frankly, to my previous companies. It was a lot about making sure they succeed and totally self-abandoning and forgetting about myself.”
So the fractional chief of staff role, I went in and worked it and had a great time, but at the end of the day, assessed and said, this aligns in this way, but it doesn't align in these other ways. So I'm going to step away. And then they shift into becoming a consulting client of mine and that worked out better for everyone involved.
That was me really shifting out of caregiver and into opportunist visionary creator. Because I was like, here are the ways this is a great opportunity, and here are the ways where this doesn't align. So I'm actually going to choose me in this very unconventional way. And since doing that, so much has blossomed.
“So I'm actually going to choose me in this very unconventional way. And since doing that, so much has blossomed.”
A Portfolio Built Without a Single Job Posting
For you, you're literally not coming in just looking at job boards and job postings. You're looking at problems and positioning solutions as a consultant. And that's how we train our clients at Career Evolved to market themselves. So I think your mindset has absolutely allowed you to create opportunities that were not on a job board, right? None of these were posted.
No, none of the clients that I've gathered ever posted any of these jobs. That's so true. I hadn't put that connection in, but that's so true. It was just connection and networking and talking.
“None of the clients that I've gathered ever posted any of these jobs. It was just connection and networking and talking.”
My initial connection with my current client, they were looking for about five hours a week, give or take, they weren't looking for much. And I was like, yeah, I can do that. And then I looked at their website and I was like, oh, hold on, this really aligns with my values, my vision, my brand, my career...
I was straight up. I was like, hey, I can do what you're asking for very easily. We're really aligned. There's more I can do. And here's what that looks like. Let's keep talking. And they came back and they were like, yeah, we want more of you. And they became my top client.
“I can do what you're asking for very easily. We're really aligned. There's more I can do. And here's what that looks like. Let's keep talking. And they came back and they were like, yeah, we want more of you. And they became my top client.”