FROM STRIVING TO ARRIVING.

I was telling Ryan that the program has been very valuable to me because I had to unpack all of the emotional stuff, all the stuff that was in my head.

If you remember the first conversation that you and I had, Olivia, one of the first things that I told you was, "I feel like I need to go and get a graduate certificate. I need more credentials." And you were like, "You don't need one more thing. You already have done a lot. You just need to learn how to articulate your value proposition."

Wow. That took me on such a journey.

You were stuck in this scarcity worthiness. I see it all the time... you feel like you can't succeed in that condition, and those are deep, deep limiting beliefs and patterns.

Any focus on lack, limitation, or "not enough"—that's scarcity. Before you could ever create anything new, you had to get out of that mindset. When you first got in the program, you looked kind of sad. And now I see you've climbed out of it doing the work with Ryan. When he told me you were going into consulting, I was like, "You're kidding, this is incredible!"

I shared with Ryan that in the journey of these last months, there were really dark times emotionally. Everything is interconnected in our lives. So, whatever situation you're going through just sheds light on all of the areas of your life.

Having done this program really took me to my core—of who I am and appreciating how I was created and all of the things that I bring value to.

I'm coming out of a time of striving and wanting to prove my worth to really saying, "This is who I am. I'm embracing all of it, and this is how I'm moving forward." I will find the right opportunity with an environment that appreciates me for what I bring. It's a two-way street.

A part of the identity work is getting through your own mind that, at one point, leaders that you looked up to in your career are now leaders that you don't want to be. That's a full-circle moment.

You say, "I looked up to you, I wanted to be you," and then you realize, "Maybe I'm a stronger leader than I think I am, because what I thought I was chasing is nowhere near the reality of what a real leader looks like." Going this route allows you to be an authentic leader, serve companies, and fix problems in a manner where your conviction remains true.

There was a woman executing that happened to be my mentor. I sought her out, and I so wanted to be like her. I admired the founder also a lot.

Now that I see how everything unfolded, like Ryan said: No. That's not the kind of leader that I am. The value that I bring is that I can lead without leaving bodies behind. I can lead in a caring way... But when I left, after building that whole function and not having people say thank you to me or acknowledge it, that did something to me.

In this journey, I realized: I do not want to be like you ever. What I bring is unique, and anyone would be a fool not to want what I have to bring.

The narrative has changed. It's from the inside out. It's not a script. It's a true transformation in the way I've been thinking about everything.

To be honest, I was so shattered when that happened that I was like, "What am I even good for? Have I even done stuff?" I felt like I hadn't done anything worth mentioning.

Being able to express my value proposition—that I'm a builder, I'm a connector, I'm someone who can analyze an issue and come with recommendations. I'm able to build stuff from the ground up.

I thought I took it for granted. I thought, "Isn't that how everybody does it?" And no, everybody doesn't do it that way. I think for me, that was the biggest shift.

You did an outstanding job on once you felt comfortable saying, "The resume has its box. But they're hiring me. It's just a tool that showcases my history, but they're not hiring my history. They're hiring my present and my future."

You want to hear a funny story? I just had a conversation with my sister. She was telling me about her resume, and I said, "You want the meeting. This resume is good enough. What you want is the meeting, because when you get the meeting, that's when you're going to tell the story of how you work and what you've done."

I actually said that. I learned from you, Ryan.

You really went deep on the whole point of the program, which is the identity always comes first. You really went deep because you had to heal, you had to transform, you had to build up your conviction.

That allowed you to get the most aligned path and live your truth. We want to build a life we're actually excited about.

I connected with you at so many levels when you and I spoke in that very first conversation. I was like, "I don't have to think about it. I'm going to do it." You remember you were like, "You have to go consult with your husband?" I was like, "No, let's do this right now."

I needed structure. I went tactical. But I didn't know all the things that I was going to learn. So thank you.